Bees Wisdom Hive – You chase him to marry him and then you deny him! Who does that?

Sis, can I drop some words into your spirit? We as women are powerful when we are on one accord and standing in God’s presence and His mission and call on our lives. That is when we are truly validated as the daughter He has called us to be…then and ONLY THEN are WE a true Queen.

Married Ladies! Are you here?!

So, I wrote this post a few weeks ago, check it out.

I’m a bit more discriminating than the average sista! LOL I can like you but NOT want to sleep with you. I am not that desperate! It’s cold out here in these here streets! LOL At about age 9-12 – I had issues if you were talking to all the girls. Please, I was chased constantly but that was chasing LOL Can you catch me? Lol

There was a bit of chatter back and forth and so I responded with this:

Here’s part of the problem, people want to sex before marriage and then after they say I do everything is shut down. That’s the brother’s problem. Ladies, please stop fronting. Y’all shut the cookie jar down quick after marriage! Smh

Y’all get mad you shut it down, y’all get a headache you shut it down. Y’all have all kinds of excuses. Ask the married brothers!

Finally, my sister Leah Vanterpool interjected with these comments. I just had to share because she was so on point. So often we do not want to hear what other women have to share with us. Prayerfully, HER words will resonate in your spirit. We ARE ALL growing all be it at different rates and spaces in time. However, we MUST grow so we can be the best versions of ourselves. Far too often, we ladies state what we want a man to do, but refuse to work on ourselves.

Leah Vanterpool:

I KNOW you are right, and yes they do snitch but when you try to help dem sisters out, they get defensive because they don’t think you know what you talking about, or you trying to get their man. No boo-boo trying to help you because every woman is not going to ignore his hidden or not so hidden advances. Women and men can TELL by word and by the interaction between the married couple that the BR is dry or nonexistent. I watch and SMH saying sis wake up. One of the brothers did a post to the married women about two months ago and he said, “did she take him or did you give him away?

It was a sure clap back to that. If they stop blaming single women long enough to see their folly they see their problem isn’t outside their union, it’s within and they have a share in the problem. I had a forum some years ago and a question came up about this matter in extension with another question. Two of my male panelist who had been divorced gave A LOT of insight and caution. This behavior of women is the launching pad to other problems. What most women don’t understand is men are masters at compartmentalizing but when they have had enough and walk, know it didn’t happen today. His decision has been pondered and his exit was strategic. It was just the day they got fed up.

Bishop Jake, in his book “He-motions” mentions about a lady whom received flowers and a great dinner for her birthday from her husband and everything appeared well. The next week he submitted his divorce papers she was confused. Obviously, there are years of unpacked baggage with that. Bishop Jake’s presentation of the book release submitted a plea to women to understand that no matter how saved or unsaved men are, SEX is VERY important to men. They get married with the expectation of free access to it. So, married women can practice this behavior you aforementioned and then act innocent when their union is on the rocks. But you know why they keep doing it. The women ALWAYS have support when the hungry wolf they released in the world takes a prey and comes home with flesh in his teeth. I am not advocating any ungodly behaviors, merely stating the OBVIOUS that even Stevie Wonder can see. See Belinda, it’s afternoon and you got me started.

Seriously Married Loves/Sis, please pay attention to your husband. Now I KNOW some of you need to go to counseling for behavioral challenges. And some of you need to work out, change your eating habits and take some supplements. Next, acknowledge you are in sin because you are withholding. Yes, I am in the word! LOL. Do what’s necessary to take care of your hubbie. I am in no wise advocating abuse, this is referring to a normal construct. Get help if you need it!

Love ya sis and BE BLESSED until we meet again…My prayers are with you Queen and remember to watch your tone, not just with men but with everyone you interact with on a daily basis for you never know what doors you might OPEN OR CLOSE based on your communication skills.

Much Love!

Belinda aka Queen Bee

November 2, 2018

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