Bee’s Wisdom Hive for the Queen Bee in You – Man versus Woman versus Fear (Manipulation) – A recipe for disaster

Sis, can I drop some affirming words into your spirit? We as women are powerful when we are on one accord and standing in God’s presence to accommodate His mission and call on our lives. That is when we are truly validated as the daughter He has called us to be, then and ONLY THEN are WE a true Queen.

Sis, did you know that often we as women try to control a bro when it comes to love and relationships?

It’s interesting because when we meet a brother we are interested in a few of us at some point appear to go into control mode. Remember how superman dons his cape to become a super hero? Well some of us don a manipulation cape and we are definitely NOT OUT to rescue anyone; but address an apparent fear that reside deep in the recess of our spirit. Let a brotha approach and it’s ON! Lol

Let’s take a quick walk down memory lane to the beginning in the Garden of Eden. So much stems from that first bite into the forbidden fruit—girl that was about control. Eve wanted more than what she had. Bottom line she wanted something that she was NOT in possession of at that particular time. From that point forward our desire has been toward men and we’ve been running ever since, LOL. We can discuss and converse all day long about the process and who was at fault; but I think it’s time for us to own up and accept responsibility and work for our personal change.

Sis, it’s time for ALL of us to do personal inner-reflection about our lives overall, but today I just want to address one area – Control and Manipulation. Prayerfully, something given will spark your cognitive thought process that you might re-frame your thinking to understand why you do what you do in regards to Control and Manipulation.

Have you ever noticed that when a brotha approaches you that you almost immediately go into attack mode? What I mean by attack mode is you desire to move the friendship/relationship at a swifter speed then him. He’s moving at a snail’s pace and you have the gait of a lion that has smelled his prey. Y’all know how the King of the Jungle gets his grub on, LOL!

Most men prefer to watch you to see your moods, actions and lifestyle to see if you sync with him; while the ladies tend to press the envelope and control the situation out of fear. Sis, have you even thought of his needs or the fact that he might not even fit into the “friend mode”? You just ready to hook up and he’s still determining what category to place you in.

It would appear that there is this inherent fear that if I don’t “bag” him now, I will lose him to another woman. We want now and our patience goes out the window. Typically, this causes us to try to exert power over him through any means necessary. Now, sis, I won’t even attempt to list the types of control, because each of us is different. What I do want to do is to make you think, assess and if necessary reexamine and re-evaluate YOUR motives. Take a step back and examine YOU and how YOU should conduct yourself. Often we struggle to see our “true” selves. I always maintain the best way to see “me” is through God’s eyes and that is conveyed through my relationship with Him. Sis, I pray!

Love ya Sis and BE BLESSED. My prayers are with you Queen. Remember to watch your tone, not just with men but with everyone you interact with on a daily basis for you never know what doors you might OPEN OR CLOSE based on your communication skills.



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  1. Amen Sis! U said More than a mouth full. LuvYa!

  2. Glory, Hallelujah! So helpful Sis, love you.

  3. You totally rocked this one Ms. Queen!!! 🙂 I giggled just thinking about myself! BUt, I take ownership of my misdeeds! And now I have to repent and examine myself! Love to you!

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