Bee’s Wisdom Hive – Change your mind so YOU can change the face of YOUR relationship.

Sis, can I drop some words into your spirit? We as women are powerful when we are on one accord and standing in God’s presence and His mission and call on our lives. That is when we are truly validated as the daughter He has called us to be…then and ONLY THEN are WE a true Queen.

Ladies, I was reflecting this am…Oh LAWD! Lol. But seriously, I often notice the pain I hear from many of us when I interact with you either online, in person or in email. It’s interesting to me because it’s evident that much of it was either caused by a man or the interaction with a man. It’s like a fingerprint. When we touch something we always leave unique evidence of our presence. See I understand that but the problem becomes (IMO) that because many of us have NOT healed or gotten free; so that permits some men who are users and abusers to come into our atmosphere, and then we allow them to permeate our spirit (again).

Rather than kick them to the curb, many of us welcome renewed pain not understanding we are worth so much more. Sadly, it is a repeated behavior we’ve not learned to free ourselves from and the reality is many of us don’t know how or even where to begin to start to change our lives. We prefer a warm body KNOWING often that that warm body that hugs our flesh and sexes us real good (if it is good) will only cause us drama later. We’ve stopped caring. When someone comes along to tell us we deserve better – we hear it in our psyche but due to suppressed pain we cannot envision it nor the process. We are comfortable where we are because it it familiar to us. Change is work!

Sis, you know that man means you no good but YOU keep allowing him access. Change your mentality/thoughts and change your ways. Another issue that must be addressed is– because of our internal pain when a #GoodMan saunters along we are so steeped in our distress we think he’s out for a piece of our soul too; and we go on the attack. Sadly, many times we push them away. Or when he actually chooses to stay we have no realization that we’ve secured something different then what we have been used to in our past because we are still filtering our pain. Disclaimer: not all men are the same NOR are all men users and abusers and many men are unique in who they are in actions and deeds.

So my question to you today is; what do YOU need to do to address YOUR issues? No one can change your atmosphere but you. Is it daring? Of course. Does it take work? Heck yeah! But the payout is worth all the trouble you encounter and check it YOU just might change in the process. Are YOU up for the challenge? I’m here to change the face of relationships, Are you?

Love ya sis and BE BLESSED until we meet again…My prayers are with you Queen and remember to watch your tone, not just with men but with everyone you interact with on a daily basis for you never know what doors you might OPEN OR CLOSE based on your communication skills.



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  1. hi ”how your day;;DOT….But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.
    1 Peter 2:9

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